NEW YORK — Regular romps in the bedroom are always a great way for couples to keep the spark alive, but as many spouses can attest to, getting around to fooling around seems to grow more difficult as the years pass by. So how much is “normal” when it comes to making love? According to a new survey, the average American couple has sex nine times per month — which translates to 108 times per year.
A new survey of 2,000 American adults in relationships by adult product online retailer EdenFantasys sought to find out just how important having sex was to most couples and how frequently they were enjoying time in the bedroom.
They found that the average couple has sex for, as it turns out, 69 minutes per week or about 60 hours per year.
While 3% of respondents claims they have sex a whopping minimum of 30 times in a month, it was much more normal for couples to admit that finding the time to make love wasn’t so easy. Three-quarters of participants found their busy schedules cause them to struggle to have sex regularly, and 60% admitted they wished they were having more sex. In fact, 12% of respondents said they were lucky to have sex even just once a month.
One solution to spicing up the romance between partners is to schedule “sexpointments,” that is, actually coming up with specific dates and times to do the deed. It may sound silly, but half of the respondents admit to coming up with an exact time and place for some intimacy. The study found that the average couple schedules six sexpointments each month, and that 20% found doing so to be even more romantic than doing it spontaneously.
As for why couples say they schedule sex, about 40% of respondents said that having kids in the house forces them to book those rare moments they have to themselves. Thirty-six percent said that their partner is often busy, leading them to take charge and pencil in sexpointments. A quarter of participants admitted they’re trying out the tactic just because they want to have sex more frequently.
The survey also showed that Saturday nights at 10 p.m. was the most popular time for couples to schedule their sexpointments.
The survey was conducted by OnePoll in January.